Showing posts with label #parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #parenting. Show all posts

Sunday, February 2, 2014

very inspiring article i found about meditation in schools called Quiet Time

http://www.sfgate.com/opinion/openforum/article/Meditation-transforms-roughest-San-Francisco-5136942.php

At first glance, Quiet Time - a stress reduction strategy used in several San Francisco middle and high schools, as well as in scattered schools around the Bay Area - looks like something out of the om-chanting 1960s. Twice daily, a gong sounds in the classroom and rowdy adolescents, who normally can't sit still for 10 seconds, shut their eyes and try to clear their minds. I've spent lots of time in urban schools and have never seen anything like it.
This practice - meditation rebranded - deserves serious attention from parents and policymakers. An impressive array of studies shows that integrating meditation into a school's daily routine can markedly improve the lives of students. If San Francisco schools Superintendent Richard Carranza has his way, Quiet Time could well spread citywide.
What's happening at Visitacion Valley Middle School, which in 2007 became the first public school nationwide to adopt the program, shows why the superintendent is so enthusiastic. In this neighborhood, gunfire is as common as birdsong - nine shootings have been recorded in the past month - and most students know someone who's been shot or did the shooting. Murders are so frequent that the school employs a full-time grief counselor.
In years past, these students were largely out of control, frequently fighting in the corridors, scrawling graffiti on the walls and cursing their teachers. Absenteeism rates were among the city's highest and so were suspensions. Worn-down teachers routinely called in sick.
Unsurprisingly, academics suffered. The school tried everything, from counseling and peer support to after-school tutoring and sports, but to disappointingly little effect.
Now these students are doing light-years better. In the first year of Quiet Time, the number of suspensions fell by 45 percent. Within four years, the suspension rate was among the lowest in the city. Daily attendance rates climbed to 98 percent, well above the citywide average. Grade point averages improved markedly. About 20 percent of graduates are admitted to Lowell High School - before Quiet Time, getting any students into this elite high school was a rarity. Remarkably, in the annual California Healthy Kids Survey, these middle school youngsters recorded the highest happiness levels in San Francisco.
Reports are similarly positive in the three other schools that have adopted Quiet Time. AtBurton High School, for instance, students in the program report significantly less stress and depression, and greater self-esteem, than nonparticipants. With stress levels down, achievement has markedly improved, particularly among students who have been doing worst academically. Grades rose dramatically, compared with those who weren't in the program.
On the California Achievement Test, twice as many students in Quiet Time schools have become proficient in English, compared with students in similar schools where the program doesn't exist, and the gap is even bigger in math. Teachers report they're less emotionally exhausted and more resilient.
"The research is showing big effects on students' performance," says Superintendent Carranza. "Our new accountability standards, which we're developing in tandem with the other big California districts, emphasize the importance of social-emotional factors in improving kids' lives, not just academics. That's where Quiet Time can have a major impact, and I'd like to see it expand well beyond a handful of schools."
While Quiet Time is no panacea, it's a game-changer for many students who otherwise might have become dropouts. That's reason enough to make meditation a school staple, and not just in San Francisco.
David L. Kirp, a professor of public policy at UC Berkeley, is the author of "Improbable Scholars: The Rebirth of a Great American School District and a Strategy for America's Schools."

Waldorf Education

I chanced upon the Waldorf Education in the book that I am reading and I want to share it with you.

http://www.whywaldorfworks.org/02_W_Education/index.asp
http://www.prairiehillwaldorf.org/

Essentially it is like home away from home schooling.
The teacher moves with the children through all levels of the primary and elementary learning experience.
For all those years he children have the same teacher, rather than moving from one person to another.
You can just imagine the bond that was formed there.
The teacher comes to know the child as if it were his or her own.
The child moves to a level of trust and love with the teacher which opens doors.
At the end of those years, the teacher reverts back to the first grade, starting over again with another group of children.
This model recognizes and announces that the human relationship, the bonding, and the love which is shared is just as important as any facts the teacher may impart to the child.

It is very inspirational, unfortunately, the tuition fees may not be affordable to many.

I would also like to share with you some excerpts from this book that I am reading:

Create the grandest version  of the greatest vision you had about yourselves as a human race.
Then take the values and concepts which undergirds such a vision and teach them in your schools.
Why not courses such as:
Understanding Power
Peaceful Conflict Resolution
Elements of Loving Relationship
Personhood and Self Creation
Body, Mind and Spirit: How they functon
Engaging Creativity
Celebrating Self, Valuing others
Fairness
Joyous Sexual Expression
Tolerance
Diversities and Similarities
Ethical Economics
Creative Consciousness and Mind Power
Awareness and Wakefulness
Honesty and Responsibility
Visibility and Transparency
Science and Spirituality
... in other words -- values-based curriculum and not just facts-based curriculum

Very insightful and inspiring things.
Wouldn't it be nice to have these concepts and practices embedded and incorporated into our public schooling, get funding from our state/govt?

thank you for allowing me to share =)

Monday, January 13, 2014

Ashley Ryan's - 7 Effective Alternatives to Punishment : Alternative to Punishment #1: Prevention

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Alternative to Punishment #1: Prevention
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As the old saying goes;
"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."

That's why "child-proofing your life" is as important
as "baby-proofing your space."

As a parent, I'm sure you've had moments when
you "foresaw" a disaster that was about to occur.
And if we take a moment to think about it,
we can usually foresee other recipes for disasters.

Taking proactive steps to "prevent" these
unecessary stresses in your life, and the
life of your child, will make a big difference
in reducing the upsets in your family.

There are simple ways to use "Prevention."

If you know your child is going to get into the
cookies, put them where he can't reach
or find them. If giving your child a sweet
dessert at night makes her stay up too late,
then change your desserts habits.
If you don't want your child getting
onto your computer, then don't make your
computer so accessible for them; shut the door
to your home office, or put the computer
out of sight.

Planning ahead will save you SO MUCH
time and energy. You'll avoid cleaning up
unnecessary messes. And you'll avoid
unecessary upsets and needless stressing out.

Prevention is the perfect companion to
Cultivating Non-Reaction. (Cultivating Non-Reaction
is covered in detail in my course:
Busy Moms Guide to Awesome Parenting)

Because often times, kids simply react to the
environment you "set up" for them,
you can "set up" the day to go smoothly,
or be a chaotic mess.

If you set up an environment where
your children spend hours zoning out
on TV every day, then they will react by
enacting the behaviors they see on TV
and by becoming more passive in life
and less ambitious.

Especially if your children are similar in age,
you'll want to child proof your house so there
are duplicates of the same toys.

By having duplicates for multiple children,
then there is less room for fighting over things.
They'll be less issues with "sharing," because
there will be two toys that are exactly the same.
Even the same colour — so there is no issue
of colour either.

When you make sure each child has the same
toy; color, shape, type, everything, then you'll be
preventing a good portion of sibling rivalry.

Exercise in Prevention:

1. Tuck away anything that poses a possible
hazard for your little one. Books, CD's,
Aunt Ida's crystal vase, anything that you
don't want them touching or getting into.
Remember, this will reduce the likelihood
of you losing your "cool" tenfold.

2. Next, do the same for anything that may
make a mess ... just put it out of reach.

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Sunday, December 22, 2013

Child senses which is the better feeling parent

Children pick up our vibes and energies very very well.  If one of the parents is positive and loving, and the other isn't, it is very normal for the child to gravitate to the parent who makes him/her feel loved.  It is not because of favoritism; it is the spirit's desire to stick with a better feeling  person and situation.